I’m not going to share Youtube videos today. Instead I want to talk about a real life experience today. Or more like, a trivial bitching rant…
You see, I was buying lunch in Queensbay Mall’s food court today, and when I was carrying my tray of hot claypot with hot soup away, looking for a seat, I got into a mini Mexican standoff with a young couple.
You know, usually, I would actively try to walk in such a way to avoid being on a collision course with other people, and if I really find myself and another person in each other’s path, I would be the proactive one to step aside and make way for him/her.
But sometimes it is just too difficult, especially if I am carrying bulky items or hot soup, then my attention would be focused more on the item I am carrying rather than my surrounding. And that was exactly what happened today. I was focusing not to spill the soup from the claypot and noticed the couple too late.
So I found myself staring at the guy’s face. He didn’t seem to have any intention to make way for me, carrying the hot soup as I was. His girlfriend (I presume) was alternating between staring at him, and at me. I guess she was not sure how to react, so she stared at us as well.
Now, I normally would avoid conflict and just move aside in such situations, but… I don’t know, I saw that condescending look in his eyes which at that instant, made me pissed off.
So I held his stare. I didn’t talk to him, I just held his stare. But I was transmitting this message with my stare: “Come on man, you seriously expect someone carrying a tray of hot soup to be the one to step aside for you??”
I don’t know if he got my stare-message, but I’d like to imagine he did, because he didn’t budge at all. And I imagined he transmitted another stare-message back to me which sounded like: “Yeah, I do expect that!”
It lasted probably about 5 seconds. If that had persisted, I do not know what might have happened. Probably nothing much, I would probably yield after a second too long. But I was pissed off, so there might be a small chance that I might accidentally let slip the tray and have the soup facing forward. Fortunately, the girl was smart enough to tug at the guy’s shirt and yank him to the side to make way for me.
I know some of you might now ask, what was my lunch. I don’t really want to share a photo of it, it was something that I regularly have in the food court nowadays. And my lunch isn’t the point of this post at all.
Okay, well, one photo…
And now let’s see how many of the comments end up talking about this lou shu fun soup rather than about my little Mexican standoff.
I don’t know, this is such a trivial thing to blog about, isn’t it? Actually this isn’t the first time such things happened to me. I remember when I was a kid, we were taught by our parents and teachers that if we come across someone walking while handling something difficult, the least we could do is step aside and give him passage. It is the decent thing to do. In fact, it is the sensible thing to do.
But apparently this common sense is reversed nowadays, I don’t know since when. I have been on the receiving end in the office cafeteria, in food courts, in malls, on the streets, for countless times. I have always encountered, when I was carrying heavy loads or hot food with me, some folks who could see me coming from afar but instead of adjusting their path slightly, walk straight in front of me before they veer off and make that “tsk” noise. Sometimes they would stop and stand in front of me. Usually I would also stop and give them a knowing look, most of the time they would then utter a “sorry” before stepping aside. Today was the first time I encounter someone who would refuse to give way to another who is carrying hot food.
And I’m not just saying for myself. I have also observed countless times, other people carrying heavy/hot items but had to stop because an asshole decides to stand in front of him/her.
I know, this is such a trivial thing, but it bothers me to no ends, because it is precisely in such trivial matters that I can observe how Malaysians have really lost common courtesy, nay, even common sense. How hard is such a simple thing as giving way to others? And how hard is it to see that it is plain common sense to give way to others who are handling difficult items and may not see you so readily?
There are things that we cannot change to easily (for example, the 2.6 billion man), but there are also things that we can change easily. Simple things like showing an ounce of common courtesy. And I think it is high time that the current crop of Malaysians do that.
Until we can start to behave like how first world country people behave, we will forever be a third world country. The journey to being a first world country starts with the people and our attitude, I believe…