Let me ask you one question: when I say that a girl is curvy, what do you think I mean?
Sometimes, I would go on a blog hopping spree, where I randomly clicked into many blogs that are new to me and begin reading them. It could be a local blog, or it could be an international one. If any particular blog is interesting enough, I follow them. Sometimes I would add them to my blogroll. That’s how some of the new blogs make their way to my blogroll if you notice my sidebar close enough. And if I read an interesting article, I would leave a comment or two. That’s how (to a certain extent) I expand my reach online.
So the other day, I left a comment on one such occasion. The funny thing is, I don’t even remember which blog or which article that I read. I guess I read an interesting article and commented, but have not decided whether to follow that blog or not, and then somehow forgot about the whole thing. Sorry. Earlier today, I received a personal email from someone. I presume it is not that blog’s owner, because the sender did not provide any link-back in that email.
What happened was, I commented that Caucasian girls are curvier than Asian girls, among some other things (I think). I do vaguely remember that I’ve written something like this somewhere, some time ago. The sender of the email took offence on that specific statement and sent me an email. On a bad day, I would be pissed off and share the entire email here openly. But today is not a bad day, so I shall not do that. Suffice to say that it wasn’t a pleasant read.
Basically, the sender was telling me that I need to re-evaluate that statement. I was
accused strongly observed to be unfairly stereotypical of white girls. And then there were sentences like “not all white girls are curvy” and “some white girls are slimmer than Asian girls“. And I was also told that it was very rude to refer to American girls as Caucasian girls.
I was confused with that email. So that person thinks that it is bad for me to say that white girls are curvy. I can only assume that the sender is an American girl, but why the hell would an American girl be pissed off when I call them curvy? I mean, what’s wrong with being perked up at the right places and slim in between? That’s what curvy means, right? I meant that as a light mannered compliment, not a derogatory remark.
And then I decided to Google for the word curvy and see if there is another not-so-good meaning to it. And guess what I found?
Well, for fuck’s sake! The only meaning that I know of with respect to this word is the traditional meaning, that curvy is synonym to sexy. Unfortunately curvy is now more commonly used (in American influenced cultures) to describe fat or chubby. No wonder people get mad at me!
Fuck you, American teen magazines and (fast food) companies! Stop hijacking a legitimate word and twist its meaning for your own benefits!
And then I began to wonder, why is it considered rude to refer to American girls as Caucasian girls. I was taught this at no less than the British Council, by teachers who came from England: Caucasians generally refers to Europeans or people of European origins (which is the case for most white Americans, no?). In other words, white people. So a Caucasian girl should mean, a white girl, right?
Wrong! A quick search online yields this result:
- A Caucasian is a person of Caucasus origin.
- Despite not meaning white, Caucasian is often used to refer to white people/white Americans.
- Caucasus is a region at the border of Europe and Asia (Turkey, Iran, etc).
So instead of meaning white people, a Caucasian really means Turks or Arabs. Spec-freakin-tacular! So when I said Caucasian girls are curvier than Asian girls,
- What I really mean: White girls are better proportioned (sexier) than Asian girls.
- What Americans might perceive: Arabic American girls are fatter than Asian girls.
Well, that sucks, and I’m really sorry about that. If said blog owner and email sender is reading this, I meant my comment as a light hearted compliment, not a derogatory statement. Yeah, it is still stereotypical in nature, but it’s a nice stereotype (for white girls), isn’t it? And seriously, who can claim to be 100% free of stereotyping? If no harm’s done, all should be well, shouldn’t it? Come on, loosen up, okay?
And I realize that I will now offend Asian girls by writing this post. But heck, I’m always offending people anyway, if you decide to hate me because of this, then there’s nothing I can do about it. I don’t blog full time, in fact most of the time, I blog after work, when I am tired and my brain is not functioning at 100%. Woe upon me if I have to think deep and think hard when I write every single word.
I guess my main reason for writing this as a blog post is because more than half of my readers come from Malaysia/Singapore. This is a real life example for you guys when you comment on international blogs. If someone gets mad at your comments, try to find out why instead of returning anger with anger. I have seen many cases of small non-issues escalating into full scale online war simply because both sides refused to take a step back and think.
Still, guys, don’t you agree that as a general whole, white girls have perkier breasts compared to Asian girls? 😉
I think this might be the time when I finally displayed the worst of my douchebaggery and drive everyone away from my blog.