你真的快乐吗?Are You Truly Happy?

I have been playing this song on repeat for the past 5 days. 五月天 Mayday – 你不是真正的快乐 You Are Not Truly Happy

Fact: I think many people heard this song not from Mayday, but from 邓紫棋 G.E.M Tang  and thinks that Mayday did this as a rendition to G.E.M’s version. This is as far from truth as the saying that the sun rises from the west, or cows can fly. This song is Mayday’s, and G.E.M is the one who sang a rendition, in a TV show on top of that.

This song has some lyrics that hit a chord on my nerve and made me rather emo. That is why I love it. The more emo the song makes me, the more I want to play it on repeat.

你不是真正的快乐 你的笑只是你穿的保护色
You are not truly happy, your smile is just a camouflage that you wear

Which is why I hardly smile and as a result, being labeled a scary person. Most of the time, I just find it difficult to keep smiling for no apparent reason. I hate it when I need to put up a pleasant front when I am all stressed up. Of course, with work, you have to do all sorts of things that you hate anyway.

这世界笑了 於是你合群的笑了
This world is smiling, so you smile together to appear sociable

Is there anyone here who is smiling for this reason? “I smile because everyone else is smiling, otherwise I would look like a douche”?

为什么失去了 还要被惩罚呢
Why do you still need to be punished after losing something?

This part reminds me of Love Story. I remember when I first received the bad news, I was super depressed for at least a few months. Instead of being allowed to curl into a ball and wail in the corner, I had to pretend that I am fine and moving on with life. Mostly to avoid further concerns by friends and family. It was the most horrible time of my life. I experienced first hand how painful it is to pretend to be happy when what you really want is to be bitter. I have terrible migraines frequently. It was not good at all.

So… what about you all? Have you ever asked yourself if you are truly happy when you are smiling?


Pah… why am I writing this anyway? I’m so devoid of things to write about that I write rubbish now. Yikes…

Maybe I’ll do another progress update of my move tomorrow. I’m almost done..

24 Comments

  1. I was told that I look very sour face and fierce when I don’t smile. I can’t help it, that’s my natural expression 🙂 Anyway, smiling has become a reflex action. Even if I don’t feel too good, I still smile so that my visitor does not feel uncomfortable. But really a smile does wonders to the recipient. So, am I happy? I guess I am when I am not depressed. I know it is important to stay positive but at times it is hard 🙁

  2. well.. whether or not one is happy, or rather, whether one is happy or not like he/she looks, really depends on how one can perceive things differently from another angle.. and also time is another factor playing an important role.. eg: you won’t be depressed if you think otherwise, 10 years down the road and you flash back what has happened and you may think you were too silly to have done that.. 🙂

  3. I don’t remember I have heard this song before, Uncle old already can’t get on par with the very rapid development of the pop music industry.. hahaha!! funny?? but it’s a true fact..

  4. The false face hides what the false heart doth know – beware of those who may smile and smile and yet, be a villain. Shakespeare sure did touch quite a bit on this. I believe in being oneself – no point smiling if not sincere…and people like you not for what you truly are. There will be those who will see the beauty within – those would be one’s true friends.

    • I think this is a totally different thing STP is talking about. No matter how unhappy or annoyed we are, no one should suffered from looking at our unhappy or angry faces. It is basic courtesy to show others a pleasant face and not give mean sik others to see (unless of course you think the person deserves to see an unpleasant face). What STP is saying according to my interpretation are people who smile and pretend to be your friends but talk bad behind your back.

      • In the twisted brain of mine, this means I have to spend more quality time alone, away from the crowds, so that I inflict my unhappy face to as little people as possible 😀

  5. I dont smile all the time but I still put on my smile especially when I’m at work.. I have to pretend everything is fine when actually its not.. Something happened last year (not very serious la) and it dragged on til present, it caused me some depression, I couldn’t tell anybody, noone must know, I’m facing it alone, so everyday I have to ‘paan kin keong’, ‘paan hoi sum’, put on a smile,especially to the person who caused this to me, tu kei sanfu ha geh, but now I’m alright.. Like you said life goes on, cant dwell so much on the past, put up a smile and pass the day lor 🙂

  6. I don’t ask this question anymore. I just smile and smile and let it become real. When I was in form 5, the school gave me an award for being one of the good student but then when I was standing there on stage while they described me, I heard they described me as someone who does not smile and it is very difficult to get a smile from me. Like you say that’s my face they were talking about. They ended it by giving me a piece of advice – of all the things you wear your facial expression is the most important one.

    Hope to read more about your move.

    • Yeah, I get that advice quite often too. Smile even if you don’t want to, force yourself to smile, sooner or later it will become real. 😐

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